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The Secret of Raising a Self-Disciplined Child

by koku_jin
“Together with intelligence, self-control turns out to be the best predictor of a successful and satisfying life.” – Steven Pinker “You frequently mention “setting limits” and I am wondering if you can elaborate. I feel like I am not good at setting limits and my children probably feel like I am unpredictable with what I allow and what sets me off.” — Aurora What does Aurora’s question about setting limits have to do with cognitive scientist Steven Pinker’s opinion on self-control? Our children learn self-control from the limits we set. But — and this is critical — only if we […]

Your Child, Better Behaved in 3 days

by koku_jin
“Children equate being loved with the reality of when we are there for them – when we really show up. But traditional methods have us showing up so much more when there are problems. Conventional wisdom tells parents that the time to emit more energy – that is, more emotion, more facial expression, more volume, and more intense relationship – is when things are going wrong. That’s a mistake, and a big one, because it puts our powerful parental energy to work growing more of the behaviors we actually want to see less of. Why water weeds?” —  Howard Glasser […]